|Roy: Love Defeats Death||
I met Roy over the telephone the day his son was to take him to hospital to receive open heart surgery.His son was late and he was fretting over the tardiness of his son. His son had refereed Roy to me due to a major life threatening heart attack.He was convinced it was his time to die because an Indian vedic astrologer had predicted his death that year. Earlier that year his son held his hand as he lay dying on the ground. The son telling him he was not bound by astrology and to please come back to his loved ones.
Roy did survive the heart attack and the surgery for his heart as well. However it was touch and go for many years after that. Roy being taken back to hospital for angina attacks and artery cleaning. I watched Roy experience the traditional recovery process for heart attack victims. He began regaining his strength,beginning to take walks through the parks again and attending exercise classes designed to relax him and relieve stress.
I cringed every time I heard he had been taken back to hospital due to an angina attack or other heart related treatments as I knew he was very fragile and at anytime he may basically leave his family for good.
I chatted with him for many hours, hours became days,days became months and months became years. He eventually no longer needed my advice and I reluctantly agreed to end our sessions together.I was very attached to him. I would have liked to continue our talks to ease his anxieties. Many of them revolving around his concern whether his family would be alright if he was taken suddenly from them.
Years passed and Roy carried on.His life continuing to blossom and unfold.His daughter got married. She gave birth to a very vivacious and creative son who spent his vacations with his grandparents. Roy experienced days of laughter and joy with his grandson's antics.I gave Roy one of my cats when I had to move abroad and she needed a home. They became very close friends. The cat comforting him and bringing peace and happiness into his life.
Most of my experiences with heart attack patients has been that they progressively atrophy,dry up and blow away. They Loose their zest for life. Living itself for them takes the form of being confined to beds and wheelchairs and a gradual waning of their physical powers and perception. Roy changed my beliefs in this regard and I was surprised at the way his life continued to progress and become better.
Roy became a famous recognized distinguished poet in India and his works now are widely read. He has received numerous awards by various organizations for his poetry.
I was awoken very early Tuesday morning by an sms text from Roy's son. It read "Dad passed away at 12:40am. He died peacefully with all his loved ones there".
I don't know why but I was gutted more than when my own Father died. Life had called back Roy, a man who was allowed to stay past his time. Seventeen years to be exact. A man who had defeated death out of sheer love for his family and others he would never meet. He inspired and healed,eased others suffering and provided inspiration and hope to the weak. He strengthened his family so when he left they would be strong and able to fend for themselves. Roy's anxiety had left but his love will not.
Copyright © 2010, Kevin Wilson